Why did I create the Dating Detox?

I understand that because I’ve BEEN there. In case you dont know who I am, my name is AnnaRose Kern and I am a life coach and relationship strategist from Los Angeles. Travel back in time with me to 5 years ago- I used to SUCK at dating. I tried all the apps, tinder, hinge, bumble, okcupid, even the highly coveted Raya… with no luck. Sure, I was going on dates. Tons of dates! But i wasn’t getting anywhere with my desire to have a REAL relationship. I couldn’t figure out why. I thought something must be wrong with me. I’m cute, I have a great job as a Hollywood Hairstylist, I’m smart and funny…. why dont any of these guys want to get serious with me. 

Then in December of 2016, I decided I had had enough. Enough of my career, enough of my city, enough of my stuff. I packed everything I owned into a 10x10 storage unit, left my car at my parents house and hopped on a plane to Koh Phangan, a tiny island in the gulf of Thailand. 

I lived in a little hippie compound at a yoga teacher training facility. My hut faced the water but had holes in the floor so lizards would climb the walls at night. I showered with a bucket.  I did yoga for 5 hours a day in the dirt. I didnt wear makeup for months. On top of all of that, the guy that I had been dating before I left dumped me in an email on my third day there… yup. An email.  It was all a far cry from my previous “glamourous” Hollywood lifestyle.

I’m not going to pretend I enjoyed it. I struggled. I was alone. TRULY alone for the first time in years. I was a 14 hour time difference from the world I knew and even something as simple as calling my mom required scheduling. I had no one to vent to or cry to when things got hard. I had to learn how to self soothe, how to be strong for myself, how to truly love my aloneness. I learned the difference between loneliness and aloneness. Of course, at the time I had no idea that I was learning these things. I had no idea that I was changing my own life by simply challenging the thoughts in my own head and learning to find comfort in discomfort. 

After 3 months, I was scheduled to return home. A totally blank slate. I had no house, no car, no stuff, I had no romantic relationships or prospects for anything of the sort. I was just…. Me. But I had a new sense of clarity, a new reverence for myself and my time. I knew how valuable I was and I wasnt about to let anyone shake that. At that time, I was truly not looking for love. 

That’s when Adam reached out to me. We had met back in October at a party and had good banter. I specifically remember telling him that he seemed like the kind of person who would be a villain on the bachelor and that i would never go on a date with him (jokes on me this time). But he was respectful in his message and asked me to dinner for that Friday night. I agreed and the rest is history. We are getting married next November. 

So what did I do differently that somehow magnetically pulled the perfect man into my life? It took me 3 years of debriefing what happened to my mindset on that magical little Thai island to figure that out. And now I have and I’m ready to pass that strategy on to you. 

Give me one month to reset your brain, detox those limiting beliefs, and get clarity on what you truly want. Then you can show up on any date the way I did on that first date with Adam, confident in who you are and what you want.